Dating a less attractive guy
I can think of a couple instances off the top of my head.
Both men are balding, but professionals, super nice, intelligent, thoughtful, in good shape, and fun to hang around. I haven’t seen the other’s profile (he’s a friend from church) but, really?
Women are overlooking such fabulous men because of their hair follicles?
The other day, at a Fashion Week party, my friend Alan and I stood against a wall, scanning the room for hot people, as you do.
“It’s weird,” he said contemplatively, staring into a sea of models.
“Lately, in order to want to sleep with someone, I actually have to them as a person.” He said this as if it were a mind-blowing revelation.
That being said, I do think women have unrealistic expectations about men’s appearance.
• The average male sender gets a 27% reply rate from the most attractive females. A huge problem with online dating is that we have an unrealistic set of expectations about how things work.
In other words, if you’re getting 1 out of 3 people writing back to you, you’re doing okay. If you’re writing to a very attractive person, you now know you’re competing with everyone else on the website.
As Ok Cupid observed, the medical term for this is “male pattern madness”.
4) Women engage in similar behavioral patterns, just not as extreme.